⚖ Facilitator Resource

Tips for Leading Discussion

Practical guidance from six years of hosting conversations about faith.

In the six years since we began hosting discussion groups, we’ve now facilitated over 500 discussions. Here are a few things we’ve learned.

01
You don’t have to know all the answers.

Many people doubt their ability to facilitate groups. The discussion materials are self-guided, with all necessary context and background information included. No teaching expertise or deep scriptural knowledge is required—just a willingness to explore together.

02
There are many ways to host a discussion.

Groups need not be large or meet at breweries. Try hosting a conversation at a restaurant, coffee shop, brewery or in your home. Even one-on-one conversations provide significant value.

03
Help new people feel at home.

Watch for visitors, greet them, and connect them with others who share interests. We often spend the first 10–15 minutes of our meeting just simply hanging out and talking.

04
More isn’t always merrier.

Smaller tables typically have the best participation and most meaningful conversation. We recommend splitting up into tables of 4–7 people. Quieter participants tend to speak less in larger settings.

05
For large groups, try using a timer.

Groups exceeding eight people benefit from a timing structure. Try sitting in a circle and give everyone 1 minute to answer each question. The timing formula is: (participants) × (questions) × (timer length). For an 8-person group, 6 questions should take approximately 48 minutes.

06
Allow people to pass.

Some individuals prefer observing. It’s totally okay to pass if they don’t want to share. Removing that pressure often makes people more willing to contribute when they do have something to say.

07
Help make space for people who need it.

Facilitators should actively include quieter members. Sometimes all it takes is saying something like “Let’s hear from [name]” to draw someone into a conversation they wanted to join but didn’t know how.

08
Questions are the key to learning.

Questions themselves aren’t dangerous—it’s stopping at the question without looking for answers that’s problematic. Creating a safe space for honest questions and doubts encourages deeper faith exploration.

09
Different perspectives can be a good thing.

Complete agreement in the room may be a sign that people feel uncomfortable sharing their real thoughts. In reality, a room full of people will naturally be filled with different perspectives and opinions—and that’s where the richest conversations happen.

10
We believe in boundaries.

It’s no secret that the religious space sometimes struggles in this area. Pressure to convince others often backfires. As long as people are coming to your group, they’re still on the journey. Let the conversations do the work.

11
You don’t always need to rent a venue or room.

Early groups met at public restaurants without any dedicated space. Once your group grows, you may be able to negotiate a private party room with a food and drink minimum—but don’t let logistics stop you from starting.

12
Tip your servers well.

If you’re meeting in a public place like a restaurant or brewery, some who come to your group may only be interested in the discussion and not order any food or drinks. A generous tip maintains goodwill with the venue and honors the people serving you.

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